I have a confession to make. For a very long time, I was addicted to porn. I am a man who has been married for 12 years. My wife is a wonderful person who cares deeply about me and tries hard to satisfy my needs both in and out of the bedroom, but she has always felt that she was not enough of a woman for me. It was easy for me to get aroused when watching porn but not with her. I like many different kinds, but my inability to perform when in bed with my wife caused her suffering and damaged my marriage. This story is about how we fixed things.
When laying in bed with my wife, she would often reach over and start massaging my crotch. Sometimes she would put her head under the sheets and start kissing down my stomach too. My penis would be soft as she rolled it around in her mouth trying to make me hard, unless I thought about porn. I imagined porn where the man would tie the woman up after which the woman would have to jerk the man off with her feet while laying on her side, followed by violent anal sex where the man gave her an anal creampie. My wife tried so hard to please me but my fetishes were too wild for me to confess to her. When I was able to get it up for her during our normal sex, she could tell I was not mentally present which made her feel uncomfortable and me feel guilty. A friend suggested we try couple’s therapy to help with the issues.
I wasn’t able to talk about my problems even with a therapist there so the problem did not get better. How was I supposed to tell my wife and a stranger that I wanted to choke my wife while forcing my penis into her as hard as possible? She was a good conservative woman. This porn addiction was truly tearing us apart.
So when did my porn addiction start? I think it was my freshman year of highschool. Back then everything was exciting. I didn’t really have any fetishes and I could get excited at the sight of women in clothing with just their legs showing. With time I needed more stimulation and more extreme acts to get turned on. One day I decided to sit my wife down and talk to her about what was really in my head and how it all began. I told her I wanted things to become more interesting in bed. She suggested we make our evenings more romantic by laying rose petals on the sheets and practicing aromatherapy. I knew that wouldn’t work. I told her I wanted to have a threesome where she would kiss another woman or for her to try anal sex. Saying these things made her feel bad so the conversation ended. I would never cheat on my wife so being with another woman on my own was out of the question.
The next day my wife came into the bedroom and suggested we try buying a realistic sex doll. If we had a doll, I could fulfill my most hardcore fantasies in our bedroom without hurting my wife’s feelings.
We began our journey of looking for a sex doll on the internet to enhance our sex life. We found dollwives.com and there were so many dolls. My wife got really into checking them out. She wanted me to have a doll with a slim waist, large breasts, and a beautiful face. We found the perfect choice, a blonde who looks like the hottest stripper in Vegas. The one you can look at but never touch. But we ran into a different problem. The doll was really expensive. Was the doll going to be worth the money? What if we were disappointed? We contacted the customer support at dollwives.com to address our concerns. They were really responsive and told us that they dolls look exactly like they do in the pictures and that their skin has a truly realistic feeling. This is because the dolls are made of a high quality material called TPE. Also I could feel secure about getting the promised product because they accepted payments through paypal credit. After we finished customizing our doll we paid for her and waited eagerly for it to arrive. It came in a large discreet container and the doll was easy to put together. When we stepped back and looked at her together we were amazed by how beautiful she was and how real she felt. Even my wife was excited.
That night in the bedroom was the best evening my wife and I had in a long time. She was an active participant in my wildest fantasies and I was able to respect her boundaries. From that day forward I have rarely looked at porn because my wife and I are too busy making our own custom porn in the bedroom with our doll. This doll has truly saved my marriage and I am grateful to dollwives.com for providing it to us. I never would have imagined this was possible.
If you are suffering from an addiction to porn like I was, you owe it to yourself to buy a high quality sex doll. You can get whatever you want and start acting out your fantasies on a nightly basis with a beautiful woman who feels real and does whatever you want. It could even save your marriage too.
What is porn addiction?
Porn addiction takes many forms. It has been around since the 1960s back when men could only get porn from magazines, but due to computers it is more common than ever. It is not a part of the DSM-5 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-V but it is a well known problem amongst psychologists who have witnessed its tremendous growth and had limited success in treating it.
Simply put it is a behavioral addiction where you experience a compulsive desire to view pornographic material in any form. It is more accessible than ever due to the internet and the ability to store terabytes of data on online servers or home storage devices. Furthermore, the expansion of fetishes and varieties of porn, especially rough and violent porn has contributed to porn addiction. People are seeing fantasy scenarios acted out in online porn that few people would have imagined decades ago and there is an endless supply of it. It is estimated that more than 90% of men consume porn and about 1/3 of women.
What are the signs of porn addiction?
- Porn addiction has signs and symptoms that are similar to alcohol addiction. The addiction gets worse with time. A person who has been consuming porn since their early teens will have more trouble by the age of 30 than someone who didn’t get started until their twenties. The top signs of porn addiction include:
- Having cravings to view porn at odd times. Porn addicts will think about using porn when they are at work, grocery shopping, or in their car driving. The urge to use porn is similar to the urges that substance abusers experience.
- Not having the ability to stop using porn even when trying hard to do so. In a recent survey on pornography viewing habits, 9% of people said they tried to stop looking at porn and they couldn’t manage for more than a few days. It can happen to anyone, famous actor Terry Crews has also admitted to being a porn addict.
- Becoming emotionally unstable when asked to stop looking at porn. Addicts experience emotions ranging from irritation, defensiveness and outright anger. They will deny their addiction even if they use porn hours a day and hold grudges against loved ones who bring the topic up.
- Keeping porn viewing habits completely secret even though viewing porn consumes a huge part of their time and life. In serious relationships, viewing pornography contributes to secrecy and breaks the relationship apart.
- Causing the addict to lead a double life. Many porn addicts feel shame or guilt about their habits even though they cannot stop. They make up fake hobbies like playing videogames or even having a girlfriend to explain what they are doing with all their time.
- Viewing porn when there are serious social or professional consequences for doing so. Many porn addicts will view porn instead of going to hang out with friends. They might claim to not be feeling well so they can stay home and satisfy their porn addiction. In romantic relationships, porn addiction results in reduced interest in sex and difficulty getting aroused with ones partner. There are also porn addicts who reported missing days at work or getting fired because they couldn’t break away from porn… while at work.
- Being so addicted that one puts of chores or basic hygiene in favor of viewing more pornography.
- Needing increasingly explicit and brutal porn to continue to feel the same amount of thrill when watching porn. Tolerance has developed the same as it does for drug users.
Determining if you have porn addiction
- If you want to know if you have porn addiction, ask yourself some of the following questions. If the answer is yes, you may benefit from getting a sex doll to reduce the burden of your cravings and to act out your fantasies with a real object.
- Its difficult for me to resist the urge to look at porn.
- I spend more money and time on porn than I intend to.
- I have tried to stop viewing porn many times and I couldn’t.
- I wish I had a partner to have sex with but I can’t break away from my porn.
- I neglect my social, family and work responsibilities in favor of viewing porn.
- I feel very stressed if porn is unavailable to me.
- I lose out on opportunities in life because of my obsession with porn.
What should I do?
If you said yes to any of these, you are likely addicted to porn and need to find a way to wean yourself off of it. If you act out your desires with a sex doll you will be away from a computer and have a more gratifying, less addictive experience. Dolls are practical companions for your life. You wont miss out on work opportunities or damage your relationship with family members. The first step in dealing with a problem is admitting that you have it. Once this is done, you can begin to take actions to change things. There are many customers who have bought a sex doll and have a much healthier, constructive relationship with sex. You won’t be stuck in front of a computer all night, exposing yourself to constant blue light and technology’s other harmful affects when you have a beautiful real doll to sleep with.
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